Moving Forward With the Good and the Bad

Episode #62: Welcome to the She Builds Show, I’m your host, Stefanie Olson and this week I’m recording this episode a little different than the others. It’s been a crazy couple of weeks with hospitals, COVID, flooding, speaking at Grow Tech and winning a prize. That just goes to show you, that in life, there is always some good that comes along with the bad. Join me as I record on my phone, walking and talking after giving my speech at the Grow Tech Fest, to share with you the lessons I’ve learned to say, that’s life, it’s okay, and now let’s move forward.

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•     I just got done giving a speech at the Grow Tech Fest, at the Sierra Nevada Big Room in Chico. I’ve honestly had three of the roughest days that I’ve had in a while, my husband ended up in the ER locally, and then we had to go down to UC Davis to get him into the emergency room there because there’s just no quick way to fix somebody’s back that possibly needs surgery. And so we spent 30 hours in the emergency room, and then last night we finally got him admitted to the hospital and we just sat down and I said, Baby, I made this commitment to do this speech, I had been prepping for it for the last couple of months, I spent a lot of time on my Google slides that I actually created in Canva, practicing my speech, and I just really felt this pull of… Do I go? Honey, do I go do this commitment that I said I would… Because I don’t feel comfortable leaving you. When he was in the emergency room, there was really no advocate for him, and I really wouldn’t have left if he was still in the emergency room. But once we got him admitted to the hospital, he had people actually treating him like a human and caring for him, and we we’re just waiting for the Neurosurgeon. And even in the midst of my husband’s serious pain, and lying in the hospital, he’s like, Go. You need to go. You have to go. You need to do this. You’ve been prepping for this. You need to go. And just the level of his selflessness and his level of commitment to me, to encourage me to do things that are scary to me that he knows that I will be good at, he was like, go. And it was like everything in me, to just even leave. (00:30) 

•    My daughter was like, Momma, but your anniversary, you’re supposed to go to Hawaii or spend some time, and I go, Baby, don’t worry, there’s going to be so many more anniversaries for your daddy and I that, it’s okay. Like, it’s okay, we have each other and we love each other, and it’s okay. And it was just a testament to our marriage and our commitment to each other, and we’re not perfect, nothing’s been perfect, we have a hard history, and a man, we’ve come really far. My level of commitment to him in this emergency situation, and then his level of commitment to me, and just encouraging me to do the speech. So I went to the Grow Tech Fest, which I really didn’t know that much about it. Because my commitment this year to myself was if there was an opportunity that stretched me, that made me feel uncomfortable, that I was going to say yes. And it’s really completely put me out of my comfort zone because… You know, I’m introverted, and speaking in front of the people makes me nervous, and being around a lot of people and having to talk about myself makes me extremely nervous. It makes me like barfey, I don’t want to do it. But I also know that I’m going to encourage somebody and it’s really not about me, it’s not about how it makes me feel, it’s not about any of that, it’s about the people that I could potentially inspire or encourage. (03:26) 

•    When you become as She Builds client, you get to download your owner’s portal from either your computer or your phone, you get to access the schedule, you could just see everything that we’re doing. You could to look at the daily logs, which is like a requirement in our business that every client gets three daily logs per week, where they get photos uploaded in the description of what’s going on in their project every few days, and they can comment on it. They can communicate with their project manager, their invoices are uploading there, and we really do use technology to make the service to the client so incredible. And that was the technology piece I was really trying to bring into my presentation. Then afterwards, after everybody went, which, these guys were just so smart and made the most incredible things, I was so impressed by them. They were like, Okay, we’re going to vote and judge you, and we’re going to give a prize to the winner, and I’m like, Oh my gosh, can I just leave now? That’s literally how I felt. Can I just leave now? I don’t want to know who wins because I’m a very sore loser and I had no idea this was a competition. so all the investors are huddling around the table, and they were deciding who was going to win. And they go, Okay, we’re all done. And they start to announce it and they say they just want to give the person the award who gave the best story, who gave the best presentation, and they called my name and you guys… I don’t know the last time I won anything, I think after you get out of elementary school, high school, you just don’t get ribbons or awards anymore, and I got an award for the best presentation. (06:55) 

•    I was able to take that nugget of information from Brooke’s teachings, because normally, I wouldn’t have handled it that way. I just would have been swallowed up, swallowed up and consumed by all the things. It’s just too much, it’s just too much. It really is too much. Like my daughter called me crying yesterday because she hadn’t seen mommy and daddy in three days, because we’re down two hours away, it’s just too much and… Yes, have you, I broke down a couple of times and had a really good cry, but I also know that we’re going to be okay, it’s not anything that we can’t fix and move forward. And I’m just so proud of that shift in my mind, because normally I just would have swallowed up into bed and cried myself to sleep and not dealt with it. And so I just want to encourage you today, that really, it’s your mindset. That changes the way you look at your circumstances. And if I could encourage you to do anything, it would be to listen to Brooke Castillo’s podcast, she really teaches you how to look and think about your circumstances differently, and feel about your thoughts differently. And it is just like a work I’m going to be committed to the rest of my life, because I really think everything that we want to achieve to be, comes from the source of how you think and how you feel about what you think, and how you act about what you feel, and the results come from how you act. But it all trails back to you think. (11:23) 


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